This topic cannot be over-emphasized but I write to initiate a paradigm shift in the mentality and the frame of reference of both gender, because ethics psychological divide is not a healthy one t has brought more harm than good, the root cause of the problem is that both genders have forgotten how special their roles are and it is mutually beneficial but because the wisdom to know that each gender is available to do what the other cannot do and not do more than what the other has done, because it is not a competition.
I am greatly inspired by the hardship people which I have come across have encountered and conquered and the optimism they show in the midst of uncertainty, inspired by the love people have for their children but the joy can be more the boundaries of such victory can be expanded, Joy is not limited to a sect neither is it limited in number it available for everyone to access only if we know “How” there are ways to fine-tune our lives to ensure that we are not misguided by this contagious perception people have created based on their experiences in past relationships, you are supposed to grow past your past experiences and have better preferences, there is need for urgent reformation and this can only be done when God orders your step. Counselling is not really the direct reason for this write up.
I put pen to paper to illuminate the function of the woman to give them that panacea they need to live above negative feelings and neglect the war for the battle of supremacy, but I must tell you there are roles temperamentally suited for men as the case may apply. Yes everyone deserves equality but we must not get sucked up in the battle for supremacy and neglect our God giving functions.
it is a pity that people especially women have forgotten that it is some adorable sight for you to be a helper, as a woman You have been given the privilege to give which is a special mandate although we cannot totally forget the act of giving also applies to men too, but the privilege has been giving to You as a woman. In the book of Genesis 2:18 “Then the Lord God said, “it is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” The key word here is the word “Helper” i.e. women you have been given the enablement to help a man by helping him, supporting his vision, supporting him, comforting him when he needs one, you have been giving the privilege to perform some of the hard-core functions of the holy-spirit but we must not forget that we have to be rightly positioned to ensure that this functions you are to carry out is yielding that is to tell you actually this gives credence to the word “suitable for him” i.e. for every man there is a woman that has been specially crafted in all hues and shades to make You complete as a man this verse is talking about compatibility. This will tell you that people women, men who get into the wrong relationship cannot perform this function because the marriage or relationship will last not because compatibility is involved and please know today, you cannot really mold them to a large extent to what you want them to be, I tell, you today that when you find the right man or woman the relationship or marriage will cease to survive but thrive, it is when the “compatibility factor “has been put in place that Is when this verse of the bible no longer becomes a problem and that verse will be 1 Corinthians 11:3-12
“3 But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man,[a] and the head of Christ is God. 4 Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head. 5 But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved. 6 For if a woman does not cover her head, she might as well have her hair cut off; but if it is a disgrace for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, then she should cover her head.
7 A man ought not to cover his head,[b] since he is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man. 8 For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; 9 neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. 10 It is for this reason that a woman ought to have authority over her own[c] head, because of the angels. 11 Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. 12 For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.”
Because when compatibility issues is no longer a problem be it in a relationship or marriage that great respect for each other will abound not because of what the man or woman is trying to do in a quest to reflect dominance but they begin to see that naturally they are built differently to function differently but achieve a common goal that is peaceful co-existence and mutual growth. I.e. the respect for the uniqueness of both gender will come naturally with ease, because that lingering feeling of inferiority complex will not control the woman.
Understanding is key, it will interest you to know that the function of help is not exclusively restricted to the woman because a man must perform this role too, The problem with most relationship and marriages today why they don’t go very far is the promotion of the “Servile syndrome” when your wife carries out these duty, you don’t make her your slave because she is not, you compliment her for a job well done, join her to finish up if need be, you support and make it look like it is a privilege or an honor to be served by her this way, because it is then you begin to see that she begins to live above the “servile syndrome” this syndrome is very dangerous it is a root cause of rebellion, confusion, misunderstanding, inferiority complex etc. which rips marriages apart, relationship becomes a get together when it creeps in it begins to illuminate all the faults and loop-holes.
We have to understand the bible verses above, you are what you think of yourself, the bible will say as a man thinketh in his heart so is he, women have you not noticed that the hand of the giver is always on top? So you as a helper you are a giver and should not feel less of a person. No matter how much we claim dominance one cannot really do well without the other something must always be missing, irrespective of how wealthy you are, you are incomplete. Yes according to the bible the man is giving some certain degree of superiority but that is not to make the woman feel less it was made that way from God (man or woman), we all made by God the father in verse 11- 12 “11 Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. 12 For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.”
Don’t join the lost majority that are carried away by the battle for “dominance” even the bible giving credence to the dominance of man still brought it down to a line of equilibrium by saying … “Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman”’ i.e. irrespective of the gender the need is mutual, we all need each other to survive. It is not a question of dominance it is about performing your God giving function and doing it right. Humility has taken people to great heights as a woman the bible as directed by God as employed you to be humble (submissive), because I see so many women so morally bankrupt even men too living their lives with great enthusiasm towards the path of hooliganism and waywardness, God has taken his time to address you greatly to tell you how special you are in the book of;
1 Timothy 2:9-15 “also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.
11 A woman[a] should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; [b] she must be quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. 15 But women[c] will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.”
Even the act of being quiet and not being a talkative is advised, if you are a talkative the spirit of God cannot rest mightily on you, because you would not be able to hear him speak, women these days have gotten that ability to stop listening and embrace nagging, when you listen it is an inevitable way of learning too.
Verse 11 ”Submission” is a word mentioned, it is not me trying to deduct or substitute the word of the bible but I want to remove that negative misconception about submission, I don’t want You (women) to see submission as slavery but as Humility, which Christ was a reflector of and that which every man must have, humility takes you places, you being humble does not make you small, it does not make you less it just shows that irrespective of where you are a filled with self-control and devoid of pride.
it is a pity that you just forget what God wants you to be and get carried away with what the world wants you to be and think, God as deemed you special that is why he has put at the word for you in the hope of guiding you to be humble so that you can stand tall… this same submission is what Jesus Christ did by washing the feet of his disciples, God is telling you to be submissive because it brings out that virtuous woman in you and this is one image of virtuousness no cosmetics or ornament you put on can give.
Conclusively it is appalling the way women dress and expose their bodies, you are not deemed valuable when this is done and do you not know yet?
Romans 12:1 “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God–this is your true and proper worship.” (NIV) brothers and sisters were giving this advice i.e. man and woman should take this advice and to show how highly God thinks of women and seeks to protect and guide them he ensured that he says it again so they don’t forget, in the book of 1 Timothy 2:9 another warning specially giving to you (woman) in;
1 Timothy chapter 2:9 “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes,”
have you not noticed the large sect of wrong people that approach you just because of what they see on you? You just attract unsolicited visitors to your life with all this, even the heavy make-up these days even turns them away from looking like human beings to masquerades, where will all those take you to? You decorate yourself with flashy things then inevitably the men will come and go like a flash.
You say it is to attract the man, yes but can it keep him? If you use one make up today another version will be out tomorrow and another lady will do better than yours, “if only you spend that much time you use for make up to make up your attitudes into a laudable one” you won’t use make ups like your life depends on it, some even use the make-up and their beauty even depreciates. We need to open our eyes!
When you mask yourself, even the person that saw you yesterday cannot identify you the next-day. Then you complain of Love, relationship not lasting, I don’t mean to be a critique but do you have any idea where the materials used to make those ear-rings, artificial hair comes from, the hair you carry do you know the kind of head it was taken from, some of you just out of ignorance transfer problems into your life and begin to bask in the disarray that comes with it … the head is very important, it is the symbol of your destiny. The importance of taking care of the body was emphasized to you (women) because you are special at the same time fragile, easily persuaded to do what you not supposed to do … Don’t you know when something is said more than once it is more than just an ordinary warning, it more like a warning.
Father saturate my life with your wisdom.
O lord lead me and take control of my decisions.
Father save me from making costly mistakes.
O lord give me the grace to be humble and have mercy on me.